Speaking to my husband is "caving"

I was going to post on this blog every day, but it turns out that I cannot sign in to Google accounts from my home computer. The only difference between my work & home computer is that one uses McAfee and the other has Norton. *sigh* I'm still getting a lot of flack from my girlfriends. It would seem that my speaking to my husband is "caving" and that they believe I am not protecting myself enough from him. They don't seem to realize how detrimental their lack of faith in me is. I don't understand why they are so mad at me for speaking to him. Granted, before when we spoke we were 1,000 miles apart talking on the phone, and now he is in the same state. And yes, I did spend time with him in person this past weekend. The message I hear from them is that I need to be brutally mean to him and refuse ALL communications. And I don't understand why they think that. I am still working very hard on me. He is working on him. We are still separated and I don't know if we'll get back together again. Isn't that tough enough?! "We" are not working on "us" because we have so much individual work to do first. I can't help but wonder if their anger at him for the pain he has caused me is motivating them. Sometimes it really sounds like they just want me to run out and get a divorce, despite the fact that I made the conscious decision NOT to do that when I started planning the intervention. Maybe they think I have not considered the possibility of getting divorced. Believe me, I have. I just haven't shared all that with them. It is so odd. It seems like they feel obligated to "bring me back to reality" when I consider hopeful possibilities, and they don't feel obligated to offer any other opinions when I consider dismal possibilities. I am hoping that between this blog, my therapy, and alanon that I will just be able to not talk to them about my life. Egads! That sounds so sad! Having to restrict topics to anything but me in order to prevent getting picked on by my good friends! What a tangled web we weave.